How to deal with Riya and showoff in Islam? Part 1

Bismillah e rahmani raheem (In the name of Allah (swt) {God}, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)
Bismillah e rahmani raheem (In the name of Allah (swt) {God}, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)+

Assalam alaikum,

I got a question from one of our readers, while I did some research, I was surprised by such vast of information on this topic, which was very interesting. Before I go ahead, I would deeply like to thank that reader for this question, because of you, I got a chance to learn and teach to many other people In Sha’Allah.

Question: How to deal with Riya and showoff in Islam?

Since this is huge topic, I would like to discuss in depth and into parts.

Part 1: Riya

What is riya? Riya has many levels in Islam, but the broad definition could be considered as arrogance. Riya can come in many forms such as in our hearts, minds, verbal aspects, and actions.

Let us explore these aspects:

Hearts: When we win or do something and get praised, we often forget Allah (swt) helped us, and we believe that we achieved by ourselves. We not only forget our Creator, without His help we cannot achieve anything, but we also discredit our family members and our loved ones and leave them behind. We take all the credit and fame.

Minds: We tend to believe in ourselves after we achieve something. That’s “I tried” or “I did”, it becomes all about me, instead of Allah (swt). When we lose something or something goes bad, we say or blame Allah (swt) or family/friends, but never oneself.

Verbal Aspects: We start comparing ourselves to other people, especially people in Islamic history such as Caliphs, Sahabahs, Prophet (saw)’s wives, and Prophet (saw), and etc.

We should never compare ourselves with anyone, especially anyone from Prophet’s time or to Himself. Allah (swt) is the best in Knowledge, let Him be the judge. We can strive to be like them, but we can never be them or compare ourselves with them.

Actions: When hearts and minds become one thought, then automatically our actions follow that train of thought.

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Hijab for Both Genders-

Assalam’alaikum,

Hijab for Both Genders, is the third installation to my Hijab parts. Please see Part 1 – Dressing Hijab for Women and Part 2 – Dressing Hijab for Men

In Part 1, we focused on women and in Part 2 the focus was on men, and respectively in the manner of dressing/clothing.

In today’s time, it is extremely emphasized Hijab in the manner of dressing, yet in our Qur’an, hijab is mentioned in the aspect of manners and dressing.

In this part, I would like to explore Hijab, in the perspective of manners, modesty/moderate, and lifestyle.

A believer or a Muslim behaves accordingly to the Qur’an and Muhammad (SAW)’s Hadiths. Also there is a reason for that. We know whatever Allah (swt) has commended us is for our own benefit (in this life and Hereafter) and the benefit of the society.

 Manners: 

  • Smile –  Smiling does not only bring calmness, but also is a sadaqa
  • Self Respect – If you respect yourself, your body, your mind, and your soul, you will automatically respect elders, youngers, and children.
  • Helping Hand – Our Prophet (saw) always helped in and outside the house. He (SAW) helped friends and strangers alike
  • Be Grateful – The whole domain belongs to Allah (swt) and He knows best for you and me, so whatever and whenever you are in life, be appreciative and thankful
  • Lower your voice – this goes for both genders. We have to watch our voice level, tone, and laugh.
  • Walk – Don’t walk hard or with pride. With hard walk, earth is in pain and with pride; the society and people around us are in pain.
  • Cleanliness/Hygiene- This is extremely important, physically and emotionally for oneself and the society
  • Gaze/Tongue – Both genders equally are fully responsible for his/her words and action, whether it is done by tongue, eyes, ears, feet, hands, and etc.

Modesty/Moderate: 

  • Self Respect – Dress accordingly
  • Health/Free Time –  We all love eating, watching movies, hanging out, listening to music (I am not going to lie, cause I do too love all that), but be moderate in that, since in today’s time it is challenging, yet we have to be careful of how we use our health and time. Keep track!
  • Religion/Worldly – We all have responsibilities. Remember that we are in this world for Allah (swt), so don’t become too busy in worldly affairs, take sometime for Him. Though that doesn’t mean that we become extreme in religious beliefs, we also have been told by Allah (swt) that we should enjoy our life as long as it is halal (permitted within the laws of Islam)
  • Waste – Don’t waste food, clothes, or yourself

Lifestyle:

  • Be Knowledgeable – Spread positive knowledge
  • Secrecy/Charity – When you do good deeds, keep that within you and Allah (swt) and trust Him. Don’t share or brag. Whatever you hear, keep it to yourself or if needed share with Allah (swt) only
  • Anger – Don’t become angry or frustrated easily. Remember you are in the specific situation, because Allah (swt) is testing you. Ask Him (swt) for help

Let us become a positive role model for our children and future of Islam. May Allah (swt) make each one of us success in this life and Hereafter. Aameen.

Reality of Hijab Introduction

In today’s society, hijab is basically labeled as “women/religious oppression” or on flip side of it “fashion”  So what is the reality of Hijab? Many individuals are extremely confused and unfortunately have relied on media.

Let me try to clear and provide proper understanding. Hijab is not simply a cloth and only for women, it is more than just a head piece and hijab is equally (more so) for men. Let me illustrate and share some guidelines for both men and women.

Since hijab has so much in depth information, I am going to break into parts.

Hijab

“Hijab” Friendly Businesses and Organizations List

If you are a Muslimah or Non Muslim sister, who donned hijab for the sake of your belief/faith and is looking to work. I will be updating this post whenever I find any/all businesses/organizations hijab friendly.

  • Kohl’s —  Clothing department store.
  • Home Depot —  House Improvement store.
  • Dropbox — Cloud storage, file synchronization, personal cloud, and client software. (San Francisco, California)
  • Microsoft — Develops, manufactures, licenses, supports and sells computer software, consumer electronics and personal computers and services

***Please note

In USA, no company can discriminate you on the basis of hijab, but it does happen.

Religious Discrimination

Title VII of the 1964 Civil Rights Act prohibits religious discrimination by employers. Under this act, employers must make “reasonable accommodations” that allow employees to practice their religion if the practice is not disruptive. Allowing someone to miss two hours of work per day might be considered disruptive, but courts have ruled in favor of plaintiffs who wanted minor deviations from dress codes. Employees must demonstrate that they need the accommodation due to a sincerely held religious belief and that there is currently a conflict between the religious belief and work requirements.

What to Do

If your employer has asked you to stop wearing the hijab, send him a letter in writing documenting your request for a religious accommodation. Document any instances of discriminatory behavior or harassment, and remain calm. If your employer still insists on the removal of the hijab, contact the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, which often sues on behalf of workers. Consider hiring a lawyer to draft a strongly-worded letter to your employer, particularly if you don’t want to quit your job.